I had sex with another man while my husband was sleeping. Is it right to be angry? | Life and elegance

My husband and I in an open relationship (both are male, married for eight years) and on the last holiday we I started exploring the sex group. We had the great trio where we felt wonderful – It is Rare for us. However, our last endeavor was not successful.

We have supported a couple and one man to return to our hotel room. Everything was great through FiveSome, After that, the couple left. The other man has supported us to stay at night (Mostly led me). In the morning, things between me and this The man started heating. He went to the bathroom and asked my husband if he wanted to participate, which he said and does not prefer to sleep. Regardless, I followed with The man for a short time until we reached its climax.

After leaving, my husband was very angry with me. It was not limits we discussed, and I apologized. However, a part of me feels like it It is not bad as it makes me feel. He has He punished me silently, the distance and expected to roam me all the time. I also feel that he uses it as an excuse for his bad behavior of hiding communication with other men. Our agreement is to be introduction and sincere about everything we reachbut History Hide and erase Sext messages, In general, completely closed with his feelings. Am I morally in the wrong here? and Is there hope for us in the relationship?

I cannot be a judge of ethics, but what I can say is that any open relationship requires a great deal of luxury, negotiation and respect for each other’s feelings. It is clear, as it often happens with husbands, there is a contrast between your understanding of what was acceptable during the collective sex and your husband. The exact points really need to be discussed in great detail as soon as possible.

But even if the couple discuss all kinds of scenarios that they believe may happen, it is still easy to be surprised by new situations and feelings that arise unexpectedly and create turmoil. You seem to have a good vision, and you have now learned that for your husband, every new situation requires you to register with him.

People who are Alexeithimic (who finds it difficult to express feelings) face great difficulty in telling others when they are uncomfortable with something, and they may require claim. At the temperature of the moment, it may be easy to forget about it, but it is clear that it is important for him. If you want to continue to include other people for sexual pleasure with relative emotional safety, keep in contact with your intuition and error alongside caution.

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