After a decade, a woman gets married to her boyfriend – 8 months late …

A woman who married her partner in the long run after a decade revealed the reason for the end of the marriage after only eight months.

Lindsay Bloom, 31, from California, while she and her former husband spent more than 10 years to build a life together, the treatment led her to realize that their relationship was on her back.

Blum told Newsweek. “We soon became safe spaces for each other. For this reason, I think we chose to ignore the red flags that were there from the beginning.”

According to Bloom, the couple spent a lot of their relationship to the debate – not in an explosive way, but through “continuous quarrels”. Although they realized that they were not a good match, she said that both give priority to comfort and familiarity to face life.

Bloom said: “With the passage of time, it seemed that the idea of ​​being without each other is impossible. “

The couple linked the knot after more than a decade, but Bloom said that she hopes that the wedding would bring her a sense of clarity. Instead, she left her “more lost feeling than ever”.

The turning point

Bloom, who is fighting with her mental health, began to attend treatment, which she attributed to her helping to “rediscover her inner voice.”

“During those six months, I worked unabated to find this voice,” she said. “The funny thing is that we have never touched on my relationship to the end. If we look back, I was avoiding facing its reality.”

In the end, Blum realized that the relationship was no longer working with it.

“When this light was run, I knew immediately that I could not return to who you were before,” she said. “Staying in the relationship was not fair to any of us. We were both numb for a long time – I was just the person who woke up first.”

Do not regret, only growth

Bloom confirmed that she does not bear any bitterness towards her ex -husband.

She said: “I do not regret anything about the 11 years that we spent together. We grew up together, and we learned how to do life together, and we have seen a level of friendship that many people will not enjoy.” “After all, I feel lucky because I spent those years with someone I will always love and respect.”

Bloom described that Boom was the choice of leaving was “more difficult” and “the best” is something she had ever done.

“When I chose to give up comfort in favor of living the truth, I chose myself in the largest way I could get. Thus, we called the two.”

After her divorce, Bloom decided to share her story publicly to help others in similar situations to feel lonely. On Tiktok, videos about her experience have become viral, and since many people have shared their own experiences.

“As soon as I started talking about it, I realized that many people have had something similar, but he was still very stigmatized,” said Blum. “If you see someone talking about this soon, I think the light had been run for a long time before there was marriage.”