Golden Retriever Friends and ICK lists: Gen Z Rules make them “constantly disappointed” | Dating
Lea Feloso, 26, has a constantly increasing IK menu.
If he spits on the ground, he cannot be cooking, lies in his length or knows that he is not political or does not travel enough. If it is strange to other men who wear makeup (“Like, K-POP idols”), he says he wants.A woman with a little autism“He does not have a skin care routine or loves songs that are only famous for Tiktok. It is an ICK if his parents do not call, or inhale every five seconds, and DJ is unsuccessful or embarrassing to do a karioki recently, and she discovers that there is something to indicate anything new.
“Three strikes, you are outside,” she said.
Between I grew up on a fixed diet from the fans’ imagination and an endless procession of dating content on its extracts, where strangers participate in Only flowers They receive and the husbands of the beloved creators spread lengthy Delivery ads On YouTube, Veloso finds it difficult to eat an empty person when you return to them. Noise He should Dating is very strong.
She said, “For a long time, I was confirming that this man who would drop everything for me, and who will know my admiration, is a person who is the perfect template.” “I think I am constantly disappointed by real men.”
General Z long faced accusations that they were losing in the world of dating: young people have less sex, Less number of new peopleAnd even before Send roses on hinges. they Most of the rejected generation and Al -Buhaidah generation. Most of these trends indicate a major change in the culture of dating: social media entrenches themselves in our romantic reality, and our personal relationships are often reaches instead of the opposite. For youth Women like Veloso who have never ever been without internet input, and this means building a dream man who was informed of the viral terms that the algorithms, social fodder and stories that people share more on the Internet shared are more than her life that dates back to IRL.
The phrases are constantly expansionary and developed, and for many, they were used as a compulsory image to treat thunder from dating content of two different sexes. There is no shortage of ways to describe the type of man who is a romantic superior partner: a Loser Provider With Golden Retriever Energy Who worship You are because of If he wants to do so, he does. The validity of the possible match can be considered in the red color to-Green flag Scale Minimum voltage and Non -efficiency weapons To get Princess treatment from Real yearfor Written by a woman. Fortunately, you can be excluded with Red nail theory or Orange peel theory. True love, ship, Otp (One real pair), it increases increasingly on social media through Trops, whether it is enemies to lovers or a Slow Relationship bow.
This desire to develop theories that explain the painful steps to fall in love is like ancient notifications about dating, such as the teachings of Cosmo and Sex and the City, Or men from Mars, women from Venus. But the Sinatia Lavort Sinatia Psychoanalyst is also a trend between generations to diagnose everything, and it is often pushed through wrong treatment speaks on social media, which is unique to General Z and the digital age of dating.
“We have made personal illness,” Lavort said. “I think there is a great narration about” these are the types of people whose history “and” these are the people who disintegrate them “and do not leave a great room for sympathy.”
Tiktok Lexie, SpkyCokezero user, is a creator that he built from creating viral videos like “”3 ways to know when to be friendly in exchange for attention to youAnd “and”3 signs of friends to dynamic lovers“The creator, 19, is a pioneer in school psychology, and she said She is not an expert in these topics-but when she started publishing videos in the hope of finding an outlet for her learning to be seen, thousands of people resonate with their content.
“I often see comments that say something similar to what they feel or understand themselves or others better after watching the video.” “I also received comments that my videos helped them start a person’s dating, I realized that the feelings are mutual, and encouraged them to ask someone, etc., which I always enjoy reading.”
Some dating criteria are undoubtedly useful. Nicole, 22, who asked to go with her first name for private reasons, said that the last promising man who had not seen her had not previously had the conversation because of the first point in her ICK list: “You find me scary.”
She said: “Over time, he continued to make malicious comments about how he was afraid of me because I am afraid and feel nervous.” It looked like an embarrassing attempt to flirt with – asking her to plan history in a fun tone – but Nicole was not a fan. I told him to go out: “There is nothing to intimidate me. You feel intimidated because part of you think I am better, stronger or even more intelligent, and I don’t have enough time to make you feel like you are equal. “
“He had to go,” she said.
When I was asked about the type of relationship she wanted, Nicole referred to everything from TV programs to celebrities: George and Amal Clooney, Damon and Elena from the diaries of vampires, the famous relationship on Mr. Big and Carrie Bradchu except for cheating.
She said, “Because there are no better words, I do not want to wear pants in the relationship.”
Whether you are young or not, human relations are fraught with emotional wires, and Dream Man content provides a safer way to go ahead. But this means that we all get used to Panopticon, where virtues, sins can be broadcast, examined and farm to participate. There is a huge appetite for horror stories in particular. Millions of groups on Facebook Do we return to the same man?? Applications such as Tea are specifically designed to arrest cheaters in the verb. Really, any FuckBoy behavior can be spread and re -posting Until Dates is known everywhere online West Al -Dardar Kalib or Sofa Or the man from Risa Tisa 50 parts “Who got married?“Tiktok series. On the Internet, it does not matter whether the crime is a pathological aspect or does not look enough enough when your girlfriend was going through the door – deliberations and condemnation are the same.
“Social media makes me afraid so far,” Nicole said. “Everyone is on the wave of people’s accountability, which I do a lot, and for this reason, people highlight more abusive aspect of things to raise awareness of them. But it also drowns the desperate romantic.”
She is not only women building their perfect partner. There are many phrases to describe the ideal woman among creators who make dating content for men, whether it is High -value woman Or a Black cat girlfriend or Someone can ultimately urinate. Recently to survey 100 men and many people cut off women because of their Icks: “Because she was eating difficult to satisfy, she was also burning a man, she did not like the Nickel and DIMED book, she deleted his previous personal file from Nintendo Switch.”
Laforte said that there are guidelines for acquaintance, even if they are aware by social media, can often be a basis reminder of what you actually want when things become complicated: “You can direct you, save time, and can help in holding yourself accountable.” But at the same time, dealing with dating as an intellectual process of boxes fails to calculate humanity. “It can also be very fake. It can take someone and reduce the lists of review.”
Veloso feels that the digital world offers a lot of content about what should (or not) should feel (or not) it feels, especially how (or not) should appear the attention of love (or not) their passion. So it plays OTOME games such as Love and Deepspace – romantic video games as players assume the role of the protagonist in order to develop contact with another male player.
She said: “It is a kind of love that feels more safely than going out to the world and uncertainty about the type of love you have.” “The presence of a man is completely dedicated to you and is very ready to defend your relationship with all his strength. [that bring] everything. This man cannot even talk about his interests?“
For Veloso, it is easier to leave everything as an imagination.