I would like to have a relationship – but I have a continuous desire to have accidental sex Life and style

I am a gay man in the late 1940s. Since I was 19 years old, I have He spent many years, mostly enjoyable, in accidental sex with other men. In my thirties, I had a serious relationship That continued Four years but He never satisfied me at all, as I didn’t feel loved It does not nourish sexually. The truth is that I am I have always craved accidental sex. While I Start yet Any man, When the initial excitement DiminishQ, me You always feel the desire to have sex with other men again.

I I am now wondering if I am able to maintain a mono -marital relationship. I realize that many gay men have open relationships, but when I saw them, it looked like a hard work, and often caused a lot of pain and jealousy for all concerned. In many ways, I want another man to love me while allowing me to survive sexually free, but I am afraid to imagine emotional attrition. This would cause. Should I just have Continue to have accidental sex and accept that a long -term relationship is not possible? I feel a little lost.

The sexual journey for every person fluctuates. Try not to consider your relationship or your ability to withstand different types of sexual associations in a limited way. Your needs may change as you live in the future; At a certain time you may become less contradictory and find some clarity and comfortable path … or not. At some point you may meet a person who provides you with a transformative opportunity by reflecting your desires in a holistic way … At another stage, you may decide that informal communications are the best for you. Anxiety about the future and play “What if?” The game is simply based on anxiety and it is a waste of your energy. Try to live the moment in your relationships, and look at the value of every person you may have sexual relationship with him. When and if you are ready to deepen the true intimate relationship with one person, you will know that.

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