My migratory mother cannot stop saying thank you. Why does this make me uncomfortable? | Gaya Niman

S.On the last general election day, my mother rose at 5 am to go to the polling station. With any type of vote, her days volunteer to help with polling cards. Although she cannot vote in this country.

My national mother feels her country of origin, Italy, but her home has been England over the past fifteen years. She has a British partner, has legal residency in the United Kingdom, and was paying British taxes as long as it was here. You have never felt completely accepted by people in this country. It is often talked about because of its accent, although its English is mastered. She also finds some difficulty in daily things, such as concern about her understanding by her manager or applying for pension assistance – struggling with everything from British humor, to the country’s management. She still feels that, as a migrant, you need to prove something.

Initially, she was a teacher of young children, now a bus driver, who was always doing the jobs she linked to the local community, which had a kind of service elements. She constantly feels that she should respond, and tells me constantly, “You should always be grateful.”

She has moved to most British features since her arrival here, which will be very polite and says “Thank you” for small services. If someone in a public office asks her to repeat herself, because of her strong accent, she will continue to smile and thank them for their work.

Its time in England seems to be debt, and it is known to him. There is no moment as a greater reminder of this feeling of evacuation from an apartment by an angel owners. Although they threatened to throw a vase on my head, the words of my mother’s advice were “leaving a gift of thanks.” It seems that her need to be more grateful than it is necessary, so that it may break its rule better.

You never felt this way before we left our homeland. This need should work more seriously than others, to do more, and feel the dispute with how people are treated like her. It is easy for a completely integrated daughter to misunderstand her mother’s sincerity for her new country, but I see how she feels in daily life. Looking at her life, it is easy to feel so disturbed that she should go to a large extent to prove that she deserves space, when she is already sufficiently contributes to a lucky society.

In the past few years, she spent her days working on the Red Cross, or firmly walking from door to door with the help of government census 2021. When people closed the door on her face, she would have implemented her amazing feeling of democratic appreciation of a country where one of about five million people are unable to vote because of their migration.

Its visits have increased to Italy in the past few years. Although we have our just share of hostility towards immigrants there, anti -immigration riots that were seen last August across 27 cities and cities across England and Northern Ireland brought a sudden fear for the community born abroad.

After hate riots, I attended the first protest to combat racism. After that, a colleague stopped talking to her in a fanatic dispute, but my mother still says hello with a smile. Although she is persistent with permanent gratitude, she has grown to better understand the British position on her residence here – which expands her perception of herself as a guest who must work for her residence.

Since Britain exit from the European Union, the rise of reform in the United Kingdom, the continuous use of anti -immigrant speech in news and politics, is spent on people like my mother who does not want here. Only this week, the government Delayed the idea To restrict visa requests from some countries, and every time Keir Starmer announces the immigration policy that has been framing as harsh Or a “Cracked”Speaking to the comprehensive national feelings that immigrants do not welcome. According to Yougov survey was published last month70 % of the British believe that immigration has been very high in the past ten years.

The government’s use of the demonic language towards immigrants was harmful to people like my mother, especially as it is unfounded. The OECD Organization (OECD) found that The United Kingdom faces similar levels of migration Compared to other high -income countries, such as France and the United States.

I am afraid of increasing the spread of politicians such as Nigel Faraj, the successes of reform in the local elections last week, Ronal and Helsby election. It is worrying that the right -wing extremist discourse will mistake government policy, and benefit from the legacy of the anti -migrant party environment.

People like my mother started leaving the United Kingdom. The honor of the European Union passport was honored by many deserts in their country with adoption after Britain left the European Union and its accompanying and accompanying. The National Statistical Office (ONS) estimates that the total net 95,000 citizens from the European Union left Britain In the year ending in June 2024.

My mother has the privilege of a backup plan, a safe country to return to her, and a dream to live in peace there one day. It is still very grateful for everything the United Kingdom provided to her. This is the land of opportunities for many – regardless of the extent to which future governments recognize, my mother will continue to the polling station to return the retreat to her acquired home.

• Gaya Niman is an independent journalist covering politics, immigration, culture and travel

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