Prince Harry’s separation is not unique: Here is how to negotiate the severing of family relationships

“I love reconciliation with my family.” It is an influential statement from anyone who deals with family secession, but it carries a certain frankness when it comes from a prince. in A recent interview with BBC, Prince Harry admitted that his father, the king, “will not talk to me”, and expressed his belief that “there is no use in continuing to fight.” It was a weak recognition of the most rogue monarchy, which binds her wife, Megan, a similarly volatile relationship with her father. But while family fractures like Harry can undoubtedly be a source of deep pain, many of us also know that sometimes, a continent between your relatives and you are fine.

The maximum that the blood is thicker than water may be correct in the laboratory viscosity test, but human relations are much more complex, and separation is common. I found a study conducted in 2020 for Professor Cornell Carl Pelmer more A quarter of the Americans say they have cut ties with a family member Like a parent or brother. Most of the respondents in Bilmer reported that they felt “upset” because of this situation, and it appears that the honorary American Harry, who was also abroad with his brother William, among them. In his memoirs “2023”, he said that “the door is always open” but “the ball is in their stadium.” There is no doubt that Harry’s undoubted risks rise, with his father’s cancer diagnosis and his ascension to the throne. “I don’t know how much time my father has,” Harry told the BBC to the 76 -year -old.

I faced separation in my family, and in completely relevant disclosure, I also got a certificate in resolving conflict. What I learned from my experience and education is that the conflict is healthy and that the decision does not always mean one happy family.

In negotiation, we are talking about the best alternatives to the negotiated agreements and the worst alternatives, Batnas and Watnas. Concepts are summarized in this, if this conflict cannot be agreed upon – and it may be because one of the two sides refuses to engage – what are my other options?

Prince Charles, Prince of Wales, Prince William, Duke of Cambridge and Prince Harry, a tunnel tour that was made during World War II during the celebration of the centenary of Fimi Ridge’s battle on April 9, 2017 in France, France. (Swimming pool/Samir Hussein/Skimij/Getty Pictures)Taylor Swift’s conflict with Braun scooter is a good example of Batna. When she wanted to buy professors of her first six albums of the previous brand, Big Machine, her conditions for doing this were unacceptable to her. Therefore, it began to re -register it and re -equip it on its own, and created a plan outside the box that did not include them.

In the case of family separation, if all the parties concerned are open to clarify what they want from their relationship and why they want these things, there can be a way forward if these positions and interests are in line with. The separation should not be everything or nothing. Without necessarily the terms of the terminology, families regularly work on a set of options and borders about the amount of contact with each other. However, as it is clear that with King Charles and Prince Harry, if one or both sides are not invested in any reconciliation, it is up to the separate parties to explore what the best and worst results look like.

Once again, when I was moving over the years my disappeared mother, wishing that she was a parent who would answer my calls, I had to learn to express the wisdom that “sometimes you have to close yourself.” I realized this the first time I read the clip in the “wilderness” of the Cheryl Strayed that her therapist told, “Imagine my life if I grew up by my father,” and he opposes, “Imagine your life if you have a father who loves you as a father.” I can’t think about a better exchange that enters the difference between the most perceived option and better– one. When no parents or the child does not like as it should, remove them from the image as well as it is.

There are many reasons that disintegrate families. The sources inside the palace told the press that Charles avoids his son because of He does not want to be attracted to Harry’s legal battles with the palace with its security details. The king has clearly found himself “Very busy” To see his son on Harry’s recent flights to the United Kingdom, but the conflict between them and the conditional nature apparently to their relationship goes back to years. Harry did not call his “backup” notes for nothing – in that, he writes, You are shadow, support, plan b. I was brought to the world if something happened to Willy … All this was explicitly explained to me since the beginning of the journey of life and its regularity regularly after that. ”

As Eamon Dolan, the author of the new book, “The Power of Parting: Finding Peace and Freedom through the separation of the family,” I recently noticed, “The dysfunctional families are driven to a specific set of roles The aggressor, empowerment, the golden child and the ram of redemption. So what happens when the spare does not want to play the part anymore? “I think Harry is falling a lot in this model, because the scapegoat is not only a person who is believed to be the family of the family, but the narration of the truth is seen as betrayal.”

In negotiating the dynamics of the family, the demands of compliance, whether spoken or unannounced, are a common bargaining segment. The price of the dispute can be. Doulan told me that “this idea raises us that the family is somewhat absolute, and that you can only love them in one way, and in this way by enduring everything that makes you bear. This is not true.” It is also just a bad deal.

At least now, Charles and Harry apparently made it a clear choice to cut ties, while William seems painful in his thick. And if you are wearing yourself ever to talk to a brick wall, you will eventually reach realistic realization that the wall will not answer you.

The separation, whether it is because a family member has cut ties or made a difficult decision to do this yourself, can be tragic. These instinctive primitive bonds be packing and lamb when cut. But separation can also achieve space for cultivating more sponsored relationships, breaking the defect courses and healthy dynamics for our children. In the case like Prince Harry and his family, the best results are available to a difficult problem possible only when the other side does not come to the table.