“The hand of delivery with the ash has arrived in a gift bag” – Why does many people conclude from traditional funerals? | bereavement
WMy wife’s father, Cliff, died in March 2021 after he was diagnosed with aggressive and late cancer, who did not leave any funeral plans. There was no money from money to pay for their price, even if he had. It was an enthusiastic annex, so the service of the church was not contained, and the bonds of the epidemic were limited to the numbers of guests, so my wife, Hailey, and her siblings decided to cancel the participation in a traditional funeral. Instead, they chose to “burn direct bodies”, a service that reduces procedures – decisively. There is no funeral service. The coffin is simply brought to the Holocaust before it is burned, after which the ash is returned to the family.
During an online consultation with “Death Specialists”, Haley moved to 1062 pounds to obtain direct burning, with more than 3000 pounds cheaper than the average cost of the basic funeral. The only hunting was that no one would attend the burning of the bodies, regardless of the paid to carry out. It seemed a harsh option for some, who were unable to get their heads about the idea that there will be no funeral for the attendance. But Haley made it clear why it seemed to be the perfect choice: they can get her father’s ashes without noise and hold their intimate party on the banks of the Way River, where she loved the cliff.
Although Cleef died in a police hospital and Wales, he was burned 140 miles in a Holocaust near Exeter. Then his ashes traveled 220 miles east, with no Cortage Limousine on the horizon, to our home in Southind On C, Esix. The connection man arrived carrying a gift bag containing Abi Haley in a hand and a small group of flowers on the other side.
andDan Garrett, co -founder of Arewill, is a matter of disruption in the death industry. Death first inspired him when he grew up in Golders Green in northern London, where his family’s house returned to the Holocaust.
“Walking with my family has always been to the Holocaust,” he says. “It was very beautiful, and I think he left a kind of resonance in my head.” He graduated from the Royal Art College in 2015 in search of a gap in the startup market, and fired goodbye in the same year. He felt that the funeral industry, with its monopolistic practices based on the local funeral managers who managed by my family, was mature of the revolution. Farewell branched from its initial view of online writing services (it is usually implemented by lawyers) after noticing a pattern of emerging among its customers.
“We were talking to 20,000 people per year,” he says. “We had a box [on the online form] However, “What do you want to do with your funeral?” Perhaps 80 % of what people were writing: “I don’t just want a stir, do not wear black, nothing traditional, just something that represents me.” Garrett realized that this is a “great job opportunity.”
Farewell began carrying out corpses directly in December 2019, a few months before Kofid was hit by the United Kingdom. The popularity of its services has not come out of the epidemic, and now 20 % of the bodies are eliminated by burning direct bodies. My rival farewell to pure bodies Recently 50 % of the UK population will choose to burn direct corpses within 20 years. Work has been strengthened by a generation of cunning consumers in technology who move in the cost of the living crisis and the stagnant economy. It is not exclusive to the United Kingdom: the United States faces a similar shift in the funeral industry, as is detailed by New York Times.
According to the burning communityUp to 80 % of people liberated in the UK, which is higher than average worldwide – although this is still behind Japan, where almost everyone is burned – but it was not always. Jessica Metford (which she chose, such as David Bouy, was burning direct bodies) by the American death method, there were only three bodies in the United Kingdom in 1885-the first year of its codification, after an arduous period of campaigns. Today, the vast majority of the United Kingdom prefers burning it, perhaps for reasons similar to those explained by George Bernard Shaw in the 1940s: “Burn the Earth, a terrible practice, which will be banned one day through law, not only because it does not only take this.
Despite its increasing popularity, Fightback brewed against burning direct bodies, nicknamed “Burn and Return” by those who oppose it. “Burning the direct bodies cuts all of this sacred understanding of the dead and the feeling that it has a deep and strong spiritual value,” wrote Ann Richards, the general policy advisor of the England Church. In June. “Whether it is provided publicly or not, this service that does not aim to undermine the feeling that the body deserves respect, care, dignity and love. Why does money spend on something worthless?”
Writing in the spectator, Ysinda Maxtone Graham, in a piece that described the process as “a single end for a mother or father, or in reality-in reality is expensive to what is happening, which is essentially the disposal of waste”, he said: “You can see how-as is the case with death with the help of-the elderly can be pressured to move to this option through the unavailable, unjust and difficult death.”
But I looked at another way, as the burning of the direct bodies has removed the ambiguity of an industry that has long been accused of excessive shipment. “The cost of death” in the United Kingdom, including the professional fees for the Hawza administration, a simple funeral service, and all optional additions such as the party or Wake, this year achieved the highest record of 9797 pounds, according to SUN LIFE annual studyWhile 6 % of the funerals are now funded.
IIn February 2025, farewell to Dignity, one of the largest funeral companies in the United Kingdom, was sold 45 Crematoria. At the Bentley Crematorium Office at the Dignity Office, outside Brentwood, Essex, director Ian Best says he is still called direct burning “burning unusual bodies” of usual. It is a remnant of the days when it was the burning of the only bodies without a family or friends of the “funeral”, which the council paid, if there are no relatives to cover the cost (thanks to the cost of the living crisis, and the number of these funerals, now known as public health funerals, It has increased by 47 % in England in the past seven years). Before the epidemic, as Best says, the burning of incomplete bodies did not occur except in Bentley every three or four months. Now, they count on nearly a third of all the burning that occurs there.
“I certainly changed the industry greatly, and I think we are learning as we go,” says Best. “It is an unknown area for us.” He says: “The biggest change is just the fact that people are not here. I am used to being here, looking for a window, seeing the parking lot is full, and hearing people – then, oh, no one outside, but I am still attending a funeral.”
But in many other ways, the difference between burning direct bodies and the service that mourners attend will be severely pressed. “I always emphasize the fact that we are doing it completely completely here, regardless of whether he has come or unable to,” Pet says. “You will always remain at the forefront [of the chapel]We will always get music, we will always bend, and we will always get curtains, there will always be this respect. “This reminds me of another echo for the epidemic – which highlighted the Liverpool campaign in the Premier League when there were no crowds;
I arrived for the first time in Bentley shortly after burning the bodies directly and the family members were standing outside the chat, after they said their final farewell. Ask Ian if the people attending the burning of the bodies are deposited directly in this way, when they are announced as “unlikely” (this is reflected in the price). Quite the opposite, he says: When they noticed them, they gathered, he played speakers abroad and played music while watching the funeral managers who take the coffin. He says: “In theory, the funeral must be just the funeral manager who brings a member of his family in the coffin: there is no family,” but he is open to the families you see, and sometimes calls to sit in the back, to help them grief to their loved ones. “I will not get out. This does not cost me anything.”
SOnti funeral managers suggest that the way the burning of direct bodies is being sold is very opportunistic. The burning of pure bodies is one of the largest providers of burning direct corpses in the country, with a huge Holocaust in Andover, Hampshire, and millions of pounds. TV ads spendWith commercial ads in the first place during daylight hours to arrest a retired demographic, probably to buy funeral plans. Their ads throughout social media, too. I saw One advertisement is for free in the afternoonUp to 50 pounds, when purchasing direct bodies through the company (“The offer ends August 31”).
The rise of direct bodies, as well as the reverse reaction, goes to some extent to address a basic question about death: what, or from, is funeral?
“The funerals have always been for living,” said Martin Stebards, who offers family funeral managers in Essex. “You don’t know that you are in your funeral, but your relatives do it.” Stibbars says that the new direct burning companies ’genius is that it turned against the decision from the family to the neighborhoods, and guidance Their ads towards those who have made their funeral plans. “Sadness is difficult. You might think it is all very good when you sit in your living room and you don’t die and think:” Yes, I will only subscribe, this will be great for my family. “
It is an insufficient feeling, in some way – but not because of the process of burning the bodies itself. Instead, any attempt to celebrate the end of life is not satisfactory. Nothing-burning direct corpses, the burial of the prince can be built after a multi-compound Courtg, or lighting the sky with fireworks like Hunter S Thompson-change that.